Five Minute Friday: Adore

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I’m linking up with the awesome Kate and the other equally talented writers of the Five Minute Friday community.

This is the GRAND FINALE of Five Minute Friday for 2014 {imagine that}!

Click on the button to the right for more details on what this challenge is all about and how you can participate {it’s not too late to join in}.

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You’re checking off lists and checking them twice, preparing for guests, planning menus and braving long lines to ensure we have absolutely everything that you might need to ensure that everyone has the best holiday season.

When do you stop to catch your breath?

Is it in the quiet of the morning, before everyone else wakes up?

I took a walk at lunchtime today because my building was cold and felt I needed the sun on my skin to help me thaw out. As I strolled through Downtown, Port of Spain, all the streets were alive with shoppers.

It seemed like everybody was carrying a bag or in line at a cashier to fill a bag. Most of the faces in the lines had a look of frustration or tiredness and it made my resolve to opt out of gift-buying around this time of year even stronger.

Instead of spending time in lines, I am looking forward to investing quality time with my family and close friends.

As I looked at the tired faces around me or people lugging around huge bags of stuff I had to wonder, why?

For one day? Or in our case here in Trinidad we have a long weekend…so I suppose people are preparing for hordes of family and friends visiting? Maybe?

I get that…but when do you take care of you? When do you make time to cherish yourself during the busyness of the season?

The reason we are sometimes so overwhelmed by everything merry and bright is because we forget that before we can take care of anyone else, we have to take care of ourselves first.

Honor yourself first because you are no good to anyone if you are no good to yourself.

My wish today for all those shoppers and people caught up in the bustle of this festive time of year: Remember to take care of yourself. There is life after the holiday season.

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Short and sweet this week. Happy Everything to my FMF Family! I wish you nothing but the very best! See you in 2015

Weekly Photo Challenge: Yellow

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Working late sucks except for the spectacular sunsets I get to enjoy! Almost makes it kinda worth it…almost!

Love Note: Kaffe & Kompany

It’s always nice to discover up and coming coffee establishments…score when they are in my neighbourhood! I spied Kaffe & Kompany on my way to work one morning and made a mental note to check them out when I had the time.

The opportunity presented itself on Saturday and I took advantage. The coffee shop boasts a simple and very affordable menu which includes both hot and cold drinks, coffee (obvs), bagels, paninis, wraps and pasties as well as dessert.

It is fairly new to the area, being only three months old. And even though it is located right on the very busy 12th Street, traffic noise inside the coffee shop is non-existent.

I had the opportunity to meet the owner, who as it turns out is a friend of a friend. What was supposed to be just a quick breakfast, turned into an almost two-hour meal. The staff are warm and welcoming and I felt quite at home.

Kaffe & Kompany: 675-2720, Corner of 6th Avenue & 12th Street, Barataria

What I had: Turkey Croissant, coffee and a fruit smoothie to go. My coffee was good, they use a Cuban blend that is delicious. The croissant was also pretty good. I was not disappointed.

I will be back for: The gourmet ice-cream, this an all natural, no added-sugar affair.

Things to note: WiFi is free and they open on Monday to Friday from 6:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m. and on Saturdays from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. They also offer a “Grab & Go” option. So feel free to call ahead and place your order. Perfect for those (like me some mornings) trying to get an affordable, well-made breakfast on the way to work.

Final Re-cap One Word 2014: Move

My one-word for 2014 was MOVE. I started the year with the intention to MOVE on from past, MOVE up at work (get promoted) MOVE out of my apartment and into my own home and MOVE in the direction of my highest self…in the direction of my dreams.

While movements have been made in different areas of my life – I moved up at work. I moved out of my comfort zone a wee bit…I tried new things, I visited new places; there was always something holding me back.

The word that truly describes 2014 is “waiting”. I have existed in a state of “waiting” for a long time. I have been using the comfort of being in mourning as a crutch. It was the perfect reason for why I am the way I am lately. No one questioned it.

How could they? My mother is dead. And my life is forever changed. I am the first to say, who feels it knows it. You never ‘get over’ losing your mother…you only learn how to cope. You learn how to live with the loss. You carve out a new existence around it.

My point is…August 07th this year was four years since my mother died. I have been living with this loss for 4 years. I am coping. And I have been living. And I came to the realization that there is nothing wrong with living. That it doesn’t mean I miss her any less…only that I am striving to live a life she would be proud to know that I have created for myself.

Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life. – Anne Roiphe

MOVE was a big intention. It was a challenge. It required me to be Loud…to live up to this blog’s name. Vernette Out Loud. It required bravery on many levels. It required a vehement yes in some cases. It required stepping out of the shadow of mourning and into the light of living.

The problem was that I got comfortable in the “quiet” of mourning. And this mourning was not just the loss of my mother. I have had other losses that I have been trying to come to terms with. Death of other loved ones, death of dreams, relationships ending. I was stuck in waiting to feel better.

The thing about comfort…there is no growth. Quiet is good for a season. After all, there is a season for everything. The trick is to pay attention to the changing seasons and change with them.

I didn’t. Instead I got comfortable. I started growing roots…I was that comfortable. I was so well planted I couldn’t see that I wasn’t making a few key decisions that my head knew I had to make but my heart was resisting. Comfortable meant that I wasn’t making any decisions. Ergo, no growth, no momentum, no forward movements.

There’s no right or wrong decisions. There are just decisions. You either make them or you wait to make them. And while you are waiting, everything in your life goes on hold. – James Altucher

Re-cap: MOVE was my choice for 2014. But it has been a year of “life on hold” in reality.

Going forward: There are still 15 days left in 2014, there is still time for making a MOVE. When I wake up in the land of the living, I will set an intention for the day ahead. Baby steps. There is hope yet.

Life is a series of endings and beginnings. And it is the time in between that determines the quality of the endings and hope for new beginnings. And this is the beauty in good-bye.

As for 2015: I have shortlisted a few words – Purpose | Start | Focus | Yes | Metamorphosis

The word I choose for the New Year will the the one that will answer this question:

“What do I most want to be thankful for one year from now?”

The journey towards discovering my “One Word” for 2015, has begun.

7 for Seven

Is it just me or are the days flying by pretty quickly now? It’s as if 2015 is champing at the bit to get here! I cannot believe that I only have two more 7 for Seven’s left for 2014! Time flies when you have lots to be thankful for apparently!

…every Monday, we post seven positives from the previous seven days of the week as a reminder of what we have so that the week starts out on an upswing. There is much truth in the belief that happy people attract good things, so it is important to start the week out right. Sometimes it’s the more grand, but other times, it’s the simple things.~ Key + Arrow

7 for Seven originated at Key + Arrow and now let’s get into my 7 for this week:

Being a human body shield. So I had dinner with my all-time favourite girl in the world, my longest friendship to date – we’ve been friends since we were 5 years old – and after sharing a great dinner along with our plans for 2015 and swapping some juicy tidbits…well you know what besties talk about…we were walking towards the car when this rat the size of a cat came running towards us. I swear what happened next was like a scene from road runner and coyote. All I felt was tug on my arm and my girl vanished. Like 0-60 in the blink of an eye. Meep Meep I tell you! I was like….you did not just use me as body armor for a rat and then leave me there to die! I am cracking up just thinking about it! I haven’t laughed like that in a long long time! And it felt so good. Crossing paths with ratzilla…not so much.

Coffee Love. I’m 7 for seven on getting my coffee to cream ratios just right!

Playing dress-up for my company’s Gala Dinner! dressup

Friends who outfit me for said Gala Dinner. I wasn’t too keen on attending my company’s dinner this year. I hemmed and hawed all week and finally decided at the last-minute that I would in fact go. One of my dear friends literally pulled a rabbit out of hat and created a gown for me in a day. He also got the make-up artist and the photos you see above are the end result! I am so blessed!

Friends who aren’t afraid to call me out on my BS. I have a friend who called me out on being comfortable (read stuck) in this place of “quiet”. She asked me point blank…what’t the name of your blog? It’s time to get loud! Hellooo…lightbulb! Time to start aligning my actions with my words and stop giving the universe mixed signals.

Friends who bring me tiramisu…just because. I love tiramisu. It is not a secret. My friends – bless their hearts – feed this habit of mine. And my tummy is always happy!

My Cohort of Awesome. I have surrounded myself with people who reflect my light and who are able to shine their own light when I am being pulled into the darkness. I will be forever grateful for these awesometastic people who have allowed me to be part of their journey here on earth…in this time in our history. This journey would not be as fun, as flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants fantastic if not for them!

And there you have it. My hope is that by turning my focus to all that I have to be grateful for at the start of my work week, by sowing my own seeds of faith and gratitude, I can carry with me and reap the rewards of “positivity + balance + bliss” throughout the days ahead.

The days are getting shorter. But thankfully we still get the same 86,400 seconds to manifest our best life. If you’re reading this, this is me blowing some glitter and confetti on you because you’re super blessed to have received the gift of another 86,400 seconds today, to spend any way you desire. What made you happy today? What are you grateful for? I would love to hear from you.

This is happiness

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A hot cup of coffee…preferably with a little whipped cream.

 


 

NaBloPoMo December 2014

Weekly Photo Challenge: Twinkle

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This is one of my absolute favourite photos. I can’t explain it…not sure if it’s the way the water glistens or the solitariness of the boat…or the promise of adventure but this photo moves me in a profound way.

Some Thursday Fun

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